It’s been just under a year since I took the leap and put out a Craigslist ad looking for coaching clients. And since then, I’ve been working on and off with varying amounts of fear and commitment to get this little lady off the ground.
In November, I made the bold choice to really take things up a notch and signed up for Mentor Masterclass, a year long coaching mentorship program. And in this short month, I’ve already learned a lot about commitment, consistency and ritual.
I’ve had a lot of resistance to the idea of consistency, and particularly the word “commitment”. I’m new in my biz, I’m trying new things. The idea of being consistent in anything while I’m in discovery stage feels off to me andfocused on the external benefits – you’ll grow your list, get more engagement, and attract more clients. All very awesome, but all very external and in the end, not particularly motivating for me personally.
Mentor Masterclass is not fooling around; it requires a significant amount of commitment. As I was coming up to January, I was feeling tense. I have a lot on the go right now. I lead a full life. I have amazing sister-friends, I have a wonderful partner, I have a job I work 30 hours a week at, I’m writing my Master’s thesis, and I’m hustling at this coaching gig. The idea of squeezing anymore in felt like GACK impossible.
And yet, here I am a month in and all I feel is more spaciousness. This week, I booked four new sessions with four new people, pushing my limits even further.
1. Preparation. It all started with those tense moments in November and December when I started freaking out about time. A shift was in order, and I started visualizing: a life full of spaciousness. Freedom of self-expression. Spaciousness to receive whole-heartedly. Spaciousness to grow. I also started shifting my mindset to make space for learning with this new venture on the horizon. Having the time to go to the calls and do the homework is one thing, setting clear intentions around creating space to learn and integrate is quite another.
Rituals include: Commiting to a meditation practice. Journaling consistently about how I was feeling and my fears. Creating affirmations and intentions and integrating them into daily activities (commute to work, washing dishes, etc.).
2. Action. Making space means… actually taking action to make space. When we think about our barriers to success, we can usually categorize them under two themes: external issues and personal attitudes/beliefs/behaviours. The hours in a day are unchangeable (for now!) but my personal attitudes, behaviours, and beliefs are what dictates what I can accomplish in those hours. So, I had to do some shifting here. I started making daily commitments to myself based on this singular question: What would make me proud today?
Rituals include: Writing down and posting my commitments publicly every week. Waking up an hour and a half earlier in the mornings. Doing the hardest shit first.
3. Self care. When your days become fuller and longer, you need to make sure you’re still meeting your own needs, otherwise what’s the whole point of this journey? To work hard for a week and then fall back into old patterns, racked with guilt? Nah, hard pass on that one.
Rituals include: Dropping the caffeine. Practicing gratitude. Moving. Drinking water. Practicing more reiki. Sleeping 6-8 hours a night. Yoga-at-home.
And the outcomes of all of this? SO MUCH SPACE.This is the mind-set shift that needed to happen to create more ease in my life. I acknowledged my fears. I decided I was willing to change. I opened myself up to receiving guidance on that change. I have followed that guidance with consistent action aligned with how I wanted to feel. With that I have let some things go and allowed others to shift.
I’m writing my thesis with a new sense of purpose- I think about it everyday and write everyday. My coaching business kicked up organically. I am working on coaching every single day. I am growing my knowledge everyday. And more importantly, I am acting in alignment with my coaching every single day.
Consistency of action- or rituals- have pulled me into a flow that I thought impossible three months ago. And that flow builds into higher and higher vibrations that guide me to my next aligned action. And that is the internal motivation I needed to get consistent. That is the motivation for fullfilling my daily and weekly rituals.
Do you desire more spaciousness? Let me know in the comments and let’s see how we can cultivate that together!
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Love what you’re putting down Jo, great practical advice for the daily grind:)
Beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing.
Do you recommend a guided mediation source There is so much out there would appreciate a referral that could give me a reference point to begin. Need structure.